We all face different obstacles through life – each as unique as our DNA. Many of them are by our own creation.
Part 2: Understanding obstacles – identify and process each obstacle independently to gain clarity
If you didn’t read Part 1 of our 3-part series, Explore your truth: how your existing choices and beliefs cause the greatest dilemma, start there.
Betrayed, misled, deceived.
Flushed, made to look a fool, ashamed, shaken.
When trust is broken, it is you and I who suffer. Our confidence is undermined; we question our capability, and our self-worth often takes a tumble. Our opponent? They brush it off and keep on going.
The shattered shards of broken trust block pathways to the creation of great relationships – with self, with others and with the organisations we choose to lead.
It is time to rethink trust.
We’ve been taught to believe that we give trust. Having handed it over, we are no longer in control of it. This means somebody becomes its guardian.
So when trust is not cared for in the way we intended, we quite reasonably feel betrayed. We look to the other person for answers.
You promised…
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the job
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to look after my money
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I was your number one priority
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the promotion was mine
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I had nothing to worry about
I’ve been there. I know how it feels.
Taken off guard, wrong-footed and with no recourse or recompense, I’ve been left to sort it out myself. I did the best I could.
In order to move on, I chose to dust myself off and ‘get on with it’.
I didn’t realise it at the time, but in doing so I was partitioning that piece of hurt and betrayal; hiding it away from the world.
I didn’t realise at the time, but I was also burying it deep in an attempt to hide it away from me.
It would become one of those unknown, unseen obstacles.
Our inner obstacles are as unique as our DNA. They are our own painful memories, unhealed cuts, unresolved relationships. Unseen and unknown, they stagnate. And with no outlet they become an inner enemy; the very thing holding you back.
Obstacles… You think the biggest obstacles you face are ‘out there’, but the truth is, your biggest obstacle ‘in here’.
Just like fear, they’re not as ominous as you think. Just like fear, they need to be faced. And when you do, you take back your power.
You dissolve the obstacle; you can make empowered decisions that take you forward; you can move through life with ease and grace.
If you’re aiming to be a fully functioning, whole-hearted human being – who has the skills and capacity to create the life of your dreams – you need to know how to identify and explore all your obstacles. It is the only way to gain complete clarity and clear the path to what you really want.
It is time to rethink trust.
Learn to own your trust again, so that you’re equipped to give it and take it away; so that you’re equipped to remain in control of the consequences.
